Every Filipino and those who love Filipinos have probably heard and posted some cheers online after the country is crowned the new Miss Universe after 42 years of hoping, praying and struggling to be one. Pia Wurtzbach made three attempts before finally bagging the Miss-Universe Philippines crown. So her moment of winning this time around as Miss Universe 2015 is considered a precious gift by all those who love and support her.
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But her unique, non-traditional moment of finding out that truth on December 20th is totally for the books. Steve Harvey, the pageant’s host made a mistake and called Miss Colombia as the Miss Universe. It was awkward and sad for the whole world to witness a moment of a horrible mistake that has never happened before. Miss Philippines stood on one side while the reigning Miss Universe 2014, carefully took off the crown from Miss Colombia to be given to the real winner that night.
We could only wonder what they were actually feeling as the crowd roared either in joy or in confusion of what just happened. I watched the video and felt a snowball of emotions – proud of our own Miss Philippines as she represented a story of overcoming a series of defeats before finally reaching her dreams; proud of how Miss Colombia took the defeat with grace and managed to stand there without falling apart; proud of how Steve Harvey corrected his mistakes right away and made no excuses. It was a moment that made many proud while leaving others, as very angry. But it was also a moment that teaches us so many things of our own journey in a pageantry called everyday life.
When you know it takes more courage to say you are sorry. And then you walk away knowing things will never be the same again even after you tried doing the right thing.
Many bashed Steve Harvey. I don’t think people will easily forget his blunder. I am not sure about possible consequences of his actions both legally and career-wise. But the man did what he needed to do. His honest but obviously a horrible mistake, is hard to forget and for some, to forgive.
But aren’t we all just like him at one point or another in our lives? We make mistakes and before beating ourselves for being foolish, we stand right there, aware of what we are going to lose, but we choose to stand nonetheless. With a weakening disposition and terribly tempted to just run away, we stand and say we are sorry. Then we walk away, hoping to be forgiven, if not now, someday.
We have all made foolish mistakes. We have been bashed, hated and bullied, even online. And this breaks us. It will continue to break us until we find the peace to finally forgive ourselves and the humility to accept the consequences of our actions. Right in the very places where we feel messed up, is that glimmer of hope that we will be forgiven, and perhaps will be accepted and trusted again.
When you know that it takes more courage to stand and accept a defeat given in a way that you do not deserve. And then you stand there waiting to understand the many painful whys.
Many felt sorry for Miss Colombia. She did not deserve to go through all that. Losing the crown was already a heartbreak; making her believe that she was the winner when she actually isn’t is far more heartbreaking. And that brief moment when the crown, that was almost hers, was taken from her head, just to be given to another, is a story of one gracious defeat. We can only wonder what she felt at that moment.
But haven’t we all gone through our own Miss Colombia moment? We fight fair and hard. We do our part. We do what we think is right. We do what we have been trained and raised to do. We hope, pray and prepare like everybody else. But for one sweeping moment, we become a casualty of someone’s careless actions. We become a helpless victim of someone else’s sin. We do not deserve to be robbed of the real kind of joy. But it happens. And it happens to the best and most well meaning of us. And when it does, taking the higher road to humility and gracious exit, back to where we truly belong, is what sets us apart. This Miss Colombia moment, will either break or make us. I can only hope that Miss Colombia experiences her own kind of winning as she overcomes this with a Miss Universe kind of grace and bravery.
When after fighting to win so many times, you lose again and make a hard fall. And then you smile, fight back the tears and accept that despite long nights of hard work and fervent prayers, some things are just not meant for you.
“I apologize. Miss Universe 2015 is Philippines.”
Our dear Miss Philippines, you represent a story familiar to many of us. Your story of past gracious defeats, resilience that marks a truly empowered woman and your unique moment of winning set you above the rest. While we will never have your moments – that of stepping back after hearing about your defeat; the surprising twist of fate that left you beautifully stunned; your hesitant and heavy steps towards the place that was rightfully yours; and your humility as you stand regally next to Miss Colombia, never making a scene, waiting for your own crown to be given at the most perfect moment and finally being robbed of that precious first walk like all have done in the past. Miss Philippines, you make every Filipino proud.
This year’s Miss Universe is hard to forget because it is a narrative of our own stories of winning and losing; of fighting and choosing to no longer fight; of saying our apologies and choosing to forgive and forget; of standing bravely and then walking away quietly; of being suddenly noticed and of being completely forgotten; of being foolish then hated and being forgiven then loved all over again.
Perhaps, it is really not just about the crown, the glory and the name. Perhaps it is really about what becomes of us every step of our journey in each of our unique stories as we run after our dreams in this short, but hopefully meaningful life entrusted to us.
May we all shine like one truly deserving Miss Universe.